So…I mentioned it all started on Facebook.
After setting up my page and inviting local friends to join my list, I began to search names of people I had known from the past, first typing the name of a man with whom I’d had a fling 20 years earlier – Andrew. I found him right away. I couldn’t remember how we’d ended, so I was a bit nervous about contacting him. Every vein in my body pulsed as I clicked ‘Add Friend’.
Andrew accepted my friend request, and his ensuing messages showered me with compliments and expressions of regret that he had ever let me go. As I mentioned in an earlier post, “With a husband that ‘showed me the door’ each time I attempted to talk about our marriage problems, Andrew’s messages quickly became a safe escape from my uncomfortable life.”
We had originally met while working stressful, unsatisfying restaurant manager positions in the same restaurant. We directed servers, customer service, menu planning and cooks, as we flirted with company rules and laughed at boundaries. Something wasn’t right about it all, but we had fun. I was excited to have found him again.
We quickly exchanged pleasantries, catching up on the larger facts of our lives: He was living in Boston, me in Chicago. He became a restaurant executive; I went on to teach college. He never married; I did. I quickly felt like I was living a revised version of ‘our story’, the way it should have played out all those years ago, as I fought an ever-present pull at my conscious.
Something wasn’t right. I knew it but ignored it. Am I alone? Has this happened to anyone else?
Emotional Abuse drives us to find relief from isolation.
Has an online relationship helped you to escape?
- Media is Changing Perception: (conversationswithoutborders.wordpress.com)
- Liam’s legacy. (jolev80.wordpress.com)
- Why you should tell the truth about your ‘Online Love’ (carolinemaryblog.wordpress.com)